People react in many different ways to the death of a loved one. Human emotions are complex, and no two people grieve in exactly the same way. But for all people, the grief work must be done. Even if it is not done at the time of death, it will have to be done eventually. When I am working with families after the death of a loved one, people often cry. Then it seems that someone in the room will announce to those crying “to be strong.” But the reality is you don’t need to be